Before you completely dismiss the idea of speed dating, consider the following scenerio: You've worked hard all your life to get through university and then find a decent job to guarantee yourself financial stability. The problem is you never had time to meet or date women along the way. So now what do you do?
It's time to set your personal life in order and begin your search for the woman of your dreams and live happily ever after. However, the predicament is that you're 35 years old, and you still don't have the time to meet women, nor do you know where to start. Maybe it's time to consider the art of speed dating as a viable option.
The Clock Keeps Ticking
By 35 years old, most men -- those looking for a serious relationship -- no longer enjoy going out to dance clubs or bars to meet women. They feel that they no longer fit into the scene and that the women who frequent the clubs are just too immature, or they're leftovers with many flaws.
So like most men, you skip the bar scene and look to the most common alternatives used to meet women: blind dates and personal ads. The good thing about these services is that they allow you to screen and search for the ideal person that best suits your interests while remaining anonymous.
Of course, the joy of anonymity has its downsides too. That hot, lawyer babe you meet online could turn out to be Billy-Bob -- a freaky mechanic from Arkansas. In fact, false advertising is probably one of the biggest complaints people who use personals have.
The problem with blind dates and personals is that they do not satisfy a very crucial requirement needed in order for two people to hit it off and see each other again: physical attraction and chemistry.
That's because in the case of personals, you don't actually meet the individual in person until later on. This requires you to invest a lot of your time with a person that you might not be attracted to. Or in the case of a blind date, you waste time with someone you're simply not interested in, out of sheer courtesy.
Back To Basics
People are beginning to realize that attraction depends on more than just a description or picture of a person, but also through the way two people interact with each other.
Physical appearance and chemistry play important roles in the initial stages of dating. Even though we tend to demote its importance for fear of sounding superficial, someone's appearance does play an important role in the decision of wanting to see them again.
First impressions are really everything; unfortunately the aforementioned alternatives don't provide this initial necessity. Hence I propose an unusual yet very effective solution. Speed dating.
Meet 10 Women In 1 Hour
With speed dating, you can meet single women who fit your criteria. Obviously, you should be honest about your own specifics like age, education level, religion, ethnicity, your ideal woman and what have you.
After you complete the questionnaire, you're invited to a get-together with 10 to 20 women that match your said requirements. How does it sound so far?
Once there, you get to spend approximately 7 minutes with each woman (no pickup lines or too much time spent with Miss Wrong) and exchange your ideas on whatever you want to talk about.
At evening's end, you fill out a report that specifies which women you'd like to see again and if the women you choose are interested in you, an exchange of numbers takes place.
Imagine, now you won't have to guess whether a woman's interested or not. Things don't get much better than this.
Growing Popularity Of Speed Dating
speed dating has all the ingredients needed to ensure that everyone is satisfied. First, you can be sure that everyone is there for the same reason: to meet a potential mate.
Second, before committing any of your valuable time, you'll know off the bat if there's any chemistry between the two of you. Finally, because the rules of the game are understood by all participants, it is okay and acceptable to ask personal questions like:
What do you do?
Do you want to have children in the future?
Have you ever been married before?
Is sex important to you?
What are your
hobbies?
What issues are important to you?
And the greatest part of all is if they don't satisfy your requirements, all you need to say is "Next!" because you have 9 to 19 other women waiting to speak with you.
Misconceptions
A lot of people assume that members of speed dating programs are losers, ugly, have issues, or lack confidence. But surprisingly enough, most of the people who use these services are actually very confident and attractive. They're people like you and me who simply lack the time or resources to go out and meet other people.
What people don't realize is that initiating a conversation with a complete stranger requires a lot of confidence, and even some attractiveness. It's easy to park your 250-pound butt in front of a computer and write that you weigh 165 pounds in your personal notice. But it's quite difficult to lie about your appearance when you're sitting in front of the individual.
Don't Give Up Hope
Give speed dating a try. I'm sure you won't be disappointed. If you don't meet someone right away, don't despair. Do you really think that you will be lucky enough to marry the very first woman you encounter?
Of course not, if you're looking to meet and eventually settle down in a long-lasting relationship, you'll have to interview many women before you find the right one who shares your interests.
Let's not kid ourselves; there are millions of women around the world. What makes you think that you will find your ideal or dream woman within your first or even fifth try?
Even if you don't end up meeting a lover, you're at least sure to meet a lot of female acquaintances, who might, in turn, introduce you to their circle of friends.
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