Monday, February 28, 2011

5 signs she’s into you

5 Signs She’s Into You

Friday, February 25, 2011

Pizza, Pizza

"Pizza is a lot like sex. When it's good, it's really good. When it's bad, it's still pretty good." ~ Unknown

Friday, February 11, 2011

OkCupid Study: The Best Questions For A First Date

Okay, if you want to know...

Will my date have sex on the first date?


Do You Like the Taste of Beer?


Among all our casual topics, whether someone likes the taste of beer is the single best predictor of if he or she has sex on the first date.

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Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Expressions Of Affection and Sex Differences

In the hit 1978 song, "You Don't Bring Me Flowers," Neil Diamond and Barbra Streisand sing of two lovers' sadness over their dying relationship.

The two lovers in this song notice that doing such things as bringing flowers, touching each other, and even chatting about the day's events, do not appear to be the priorities that they had once been. These expressions of affection (various means by which love is communicated to another person) contribute to the overall atmosphere of love in a given relationship. In fact, research suggests that the informed and deliberate use of expressions of affection has a profound impact on marital satisfaction. In the song above, the couple could, as a result of a failure to express affection, feel the relationship falling apart. Many people, particularly married couples, relate to this song because they have experienced this tragic loss of relational satisfaction on some level.

John Gottman has researched this phenomenon of relationship dissolution for over twenty years. He has predicted (1994), with 94 percent accuracy, whether or not a couple will stay together. According to Gottman, the main indicator of whether or not a couple will stay together is what he calls a 5:1 ratio between positive moments and negative moments. Positive moments are those subjective feelings of love experienced by one spouse that are directly due to the actions of the other spouse. Negative moments are those occasions when one of the partners feels unloved due to the actions (or inactions) of their spouse.

Gottman suggests that the people who are dissatisfied with their relationships and wish to dissolve them do so because they find that the negative moments in the relationship have more impact than the positive moments. Even if there are more positive than negative moments, if the ratio is not great enough, the relationship will be strained. This is primarily the result of the greater impact that unexpected negative moments have on a spouse as opposed to expected positive moments. After all, who marries anticipating feeling unloved? People expect the positive moments and relish the expressions of affection that they receive from their partners, and reel from the negative moments that appear to come, seemingly, out of nowhere. Therefore, according to Gottman, each person needs to experience a larger percentage of positive moments to negative moments in order to feel a sense of satisfaction in the relationship and a desire to maintain it. This is exemplified in the song quoted above.

Read more: Affection - Expressions Of Affection, Sex Differences And Expressions Of Affection, Marital Satisfaction - Moments, Negative, Relationship, Positive, Song, and Spouse

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

How to Get a Man to Make the First Move

By Chelsea HoffmaneHow Contributor

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Getting a man to make the first move can be easy if you send the right signals and if you don't
come on too strong. Whether you're on your first date or your fourth, getting a kiss or more
without being the one to make the first move can be very simple.
Difficulty: Easy


  1. 1 Make eye contact with your date. Looking into his eyes while you're talking to one another will show him that you are paying attention to him.
  2. 2 Play with your hair while you're talking to each other. Twirling a strand or two with your fingers while your eyes meet his may send him the signal to make a move.
  3. 3 Suck on a piece of candy like a Blow Pop. The suggestive act may distract him and it will be hard for him to not make the first move afterward.
  4. 4 Put your head on your date's shoulder. If you're sitting next to him at a movie or on a couch, let your head rest to the side softly so that it touches your shoulder. The innocent gesture could inspire him to take things further.
  5. 5 Instigate a conversation about making the first move. Conversation usually drifts to the topic of dating, so passively noting that you usually don't make the first move could stick in his memory.