Tuesday, January 4, 2011

How to Stay Broken Up – Seven Tips to Make Your Breakup Stick

Ever had a breakup last weeks? Have you ever gotten back together with an ex more than three of four times?
Well if you haven’t, then you probably know someone who is notorious for dragging relationships on and on.Turns out, I am one of those people.
For close to three years I managed to date the same two guys over and over again. I’d break up with one, then get back together with the other. That relationship would fizzle and then I’d find myself talking to the other one again.
And on, and on, and on, and on.
Turns out neither one of these guys were “the one,” and after some major drama and putting thousands of miles on my car, I managed to put them both behind me. But not without learning some serious lessons first.
As part of my incessant need to impart my dating wisdom on you, here are seven tips on how to make your break up stick. And yes, they are listed in order of importance.
1 – Don’t agree to “just be friends.” Just don’t.
2 – If you run in the same circles (i.e., same job, clique, neighborhood, kickball team, etc), don’t drink together. I’m talking absolutely no alcohol at all. It might seem harmless to have one beer at your office party, but one beer leads to a shot to car bombs,� and then the next thing you know you’re sitting on his lap in the back of a cab on the way to the next bar…not that this has happened to me before or anything.
3 – Go into your email contacts and change his name to “Do Not Read.”
4 – Do not delete his number from your phone. Repeat, don’t delete him. Instead, change his name to “Do Not Answer.” If this doesn’t stop you from calling him or picking up his call, change his entry once again to read: “Sexually Transmitted Disease.”
5 -You’re no longer friends on Facebook, MySpace, LinkedIn, Twitter, and any other social network you are a member of. I’m serious about this, no exceptions.
6 – Sit down and write him a long letter that says everything you’ve ever wanted to say to him plus everything you have already said to him. The next night, sit down and write a list of the top 10 things you don’t like about him. Now, take both pieces of paper and rip them up and throw it all away. Don’t give them to him, he doesn’t need to see it. This is your closure.
7 – Fill your days and nights with distraction. Train for a marathon, join a book club, take a class, get a part-time job, write your memoirs, try speed dating. Do everything you can think of to keep your mind occupied.
Don’t waste years on someone you aren’t meant to be with. Sure, you’re passing the time, but while you’re “passing time” the right guy is out there not knowing you’re available.

This article was taken from datingtales.net.

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