10 Relationship Red Flags and Bad Girlfriend Warning Signs

Wondering if you're dating Ms. Wrong? Not quite sure if your girlfriend is the one for you? Are you searching for relationship warning signs? Just curious if your girlfriend isn't a good catch?
Is so, you're not alone. Some common searches on Google are "is my girlfriend right for me", "warning signs of a bad girlfriend", "signs of a bad relationship", and "relationship red flags."

Here are a few warning signs that your girlfriend isn't right for you.

Relationship Warning Sign #1: She is constantly complaining.
Is your girlfriend constantly criticizing other people? Does she complain about her family, roommate, or random people at the grocery story? If so, that is a big red flag.

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a grouchy 'ole lady? It will only get worse as she gets older. Chances are, if she is complaining to other people about you frequently, more than likely she complains about you to others.

Now, there are some situations, say a bullying coworker, where it is understandable. But if she is constantly complaining about other people and life in general, she probably isn't for you. This is especially true if she complains about your family and friends.

Relationship Warning Sign #2: She has lied to you.
Lying is a big red flag. It is not healthy for anyone to lie in a relationship. I'm not saying you should definitely call it quits if she has lied to you, but you should take this very seriously. This is especially true if she has lied about her background, age, or health situation.

Relationship Warning Sign #3: She doesn't share your religious beliefs.
One of the biggest relationship mistakes is to date someone who does not share your religious beliefs. While it may seem to work, this can cause serious problems in a marriage. It is best to find a girl who shares your religious beliefs. In a relationship where the religious beliefs are not shared, someone usually will have to give in and leave their religious background.

Relationship Warning Sign #4: She is trying to change you.
Okay, this one is flexible. If she's trying to get you to quit smoking or stop drinking, that is understandable. But if she is trying to change you in other ways, and is nagging you, you might need to think twice about the relationship. If she's not happy with you now, imagine how she might being thirty years or so when you're going bald.

Relationship Warning Sign #5: She doesn't get along well with others.
Does she not have many friends? Is the constantly fighting with her roommate, family and other people? If she doesn't get along well with others, it might be a sign the relationship won't last long.

Relationship Warning Sign #6: She criticizes you in front of other people.
Does your girlfriend criticize you in front of others over things like the way you hold your fork and are dressed? Does she point out your flaws to friends and family? If so, this is a big red flag she is not the one for you.

Relationship Warning Sign #7: She's very, very insecure.
Does she incessantly put herself down? Is she very insecure with the way she looks? This is not the best sign in a good girlfriend. While it is possible she can change, it is toxic to be dating someone who is very insecure.

Relationship Warning Sign #8: She uses illegal drugs.
This one is pretty self-explanatory. Do you really want someone who uses drugs to be the mother of your children? Will she be a positive influence on you? Think about it.

Relationship Warning Sign #9: She doesn't seem very interested in you. 
If she doesn't seem to be very interested in you, it might be time to talk to her about it. She's either very shy, or she's just not the one for you.

Relationship Warning Sign #10: She doesn't seem to like your children.If you have kids, and she complains about, or doesn't seem interested in your children, she is definitely not the one for you. And, if your kids have expressed that they don't like her, she is just not a good catch. It is very unhealthy to marry someone who won't be a mentor and positive role model to your children. You need to put your kids first. If you really feel she is the one for you, then wait until your kids are grown.

These are just ten red flags that your girlfriend is not a good catch. These signs don't necessarily mean it's time to end the relationship. Counseling might be beneficial. If you are wondering what are some of the bad relationship signs for men are, please read "20 Signs You're Dating Mr. Wrong." Best wishes!


This article was written by Rachel Carpenter and was taken from associatedcontent.com

How Long Did She Wait To Have Sex?

Some girls give it up on the first date, others wait until your penis is so clogged with sperm that your brain can no longer concentrate on anything but. Whatever the case, how long she waits could be the "make it or break it" aspect of a relationship.

Now please keep in mind that certain circumstances cause couples to become closer or break further apart despite how long they wait to have sex. Not everyone is hung up on waiting for a specific time frame or rather, any time at all.

How about yourself and your significant other? Did she make you beg for it, or was she donning high leather boots and a whip off the bat? Well, if you've been in this situation before, what I'm about to reveal will likely come as no shock.

Here Comes The Bride

Some girls will wait until their wedding night (although that seems to be happening less and less nowadays) to give up the goods. And although I must admit that this is quite admirable, couples who put off having sex for too long could be in for a huge disappointment.

First off, just as healthy communication and common interests are important in a relationship, so is sexual compatibility. Imagine sleeping with her only to discover that her behavior in bed mimics that of an embalmed corpse. Or worse yet, a violent cavewoman.

If she waits until your wedding night to give it to you, she's a respectable woman and hopefully, a virgin. Yeah, and what's up with that "secondary virginity" crap anyway? Hey, once that cherry's gone, it's gone for good.

As The Months Went By

There you were, you poor goof, waiting, wondering when that day would finally come that she would flash her garden your way and give you an open invitation to a private buffet. For months, all you were getting were some wet kisses and an occasional grope of a booby or two. 

Finally, after 181 days (you know because you've been marking the days down on the calendar), or six months, she finally welcomes you into her pleasure palace. And it's the best you've ever had. But if anyone has ever listened to Eddie Murphy's stand-up comedy, Delirious , they'll know it's like "crackers."

If you're starving, and someone throws you a cracker, it'll probably be the most scrumptious cracker you've ever tasted -- the caviar of crackers if you will. But after months of the same thing, they begin to taste like ordinary soda crackers. So always keep in mind that creativity is key and it's up to both of you to keep the fire burning.

Remember that this one's a keeper and she's a rational being who doesn't jump into things impulsively.

The Three-Month Mark

If your woman waits a couple of months or so, she's probably a very sharp woman who got to know you and felt that you and she were compatible on every level, thus sex will likely be excellent.

Keep in mind that if you only went on two dates in two months, and she gave it up on the second date, then that doesn't mean she waited 2 months that means she waited two dates -- there's a huge difference.

I figure that in two months you have probably gone out on about 8 dates and therefore got to know one another somewhat. This is probably the greatest amount of time to wait because you get to know each other enough to realize whether or not there's long-term compatibility and yet, there remains an element of mystery between the two of you.

There's a good chance that this kind of gal has a great sex drive. And it's great that she took the time to get to know you, and let you get to know her -- outside the bedroom.

What if it takes 3 dates... or less?

One, Two, Three

If a gal waited about three dates or so before she bedded you, it's a little too iffy to predict. A whole lot can happen in only a few dates, depending on what you did. If, for example, you went out to movies or loud dance clubs on all the dates, then chances are you probably don't know much about one another.

It's quite easy to predict when a sexual relationship is purely about lust and infatuation rather than a genuine desire to get to know that person.

On the other hand, if you went out to dinner, or for coffee or drinks together, then chances are that the two of you have communicated certain personal things to one another, and there may be more than just sexual heat stirring.

First Night Fling

Although there are a rare few who have had first date sex and then a successful relationship, the majority of players who engage in this little game of sex tag right away are usually doomed from the get go. Perhaps most women are still labeled negatively when they engage in such acts, but it's hard for all of society, including women, to rid itself of this negative stereotype.

A woman who beds you before you even discover that she has a cat named Bubbles and a huge crush on Adam Sandler is probably not going to end up being the ball to your chain.

The obvious questions come into play: how many other guys did she do this with? How can she take sex so lightly? And then the usual "this was way too easy." Be careful, though, because nowadays women have become the aggressors, and it is quite possible that you'll end up being the one who feels cast-off.

Everything But The Hole

What about those women who refuse to let you insert, but will basically do everything else under the sun? The kind of women who think that if they let you smack it up, flip it and rub it down without penetrating her vagina, then she's still pure. My goodness, some people really have a distorted definition of "virginity."

So you get to stick it in everything but the garden is she worth planning a wedding for? Bloody unlikely. She's a horny girl, obviously, but isn't anything more than a kiss a little too much on a first date?

If You Wait, They Will Come

If you're dating a woman, why not take the high road and do the holding out yourself? I know, I know, that would require nothing short of dirty magazines and lots of lube, but she'll end up wanting you more than ever.

Anticipation is the greatest aphrodisiac, and if you continuously give her small doses of the good stuff, she'll be hooked for good.

It's obvious that there is no "right time" to wait before having sex because we're all different beings and our situations, as well, may also be dissimilar. But whatever the case, your best bet would be to wait and get to know your potential bedmate somewhat.

After all, the last time I checked, sex was still a sacred experience.

This article was written by Vanessa Burton and taken from askmen.com.

Translating Man Speak: What He is Really Trying to Tell You

There's an old joke about a wife who nags her husband, "Tell me how you feel." Finally, the husband blurts, "I feel...I feel...like watching television."

The awful truth is, most men have no idea how they feel at any given time. Studies show that men use language to establish difference, separateness and independence (exactly the opposite of women, who talk to connect). So demanding that he talk to you is guaranteed to make him squirm and start rambling about whether new Cheerios really are improved.

Here are the answers and explanations to his biggest verbal 'Huhs?' (you'll be speaking like a native in no time). Take the cues from the following sections, so that you and your man can finally understand each other:

What He Says When You're Dating

An at-a-glance guide to his love talk:

A slew of research has established that men and women use language in different ways. For women, talk is the glue that holds relationships together. To men, conversation is a means, not an end. They don't even like talking to each other that much -- two guys can watch a game in silence for four hours and walk away feeling they've bonded. When men do use words, it's primarily doublespeak to stay on top. Here's how to make sense of the favorite phrases he uses for different stages of your union:

When You're Dating

He says: So maybe we could get together or something?

He means: I think you're really hot and want to ask you out, but I'm too chicken to say so

He says: Nothing about seeing you again

He means: His mojo wasn't rising

He says: You're a really good person

He means: You'll never see him again

He says: Let's be friends

He means: You're not my type, but could you set me up with your hot friend?

He says: I'll call you

He means: I really mean to call but I'm scared you'll say yes, we'll go out and it will be a letdown. Or worse, what if it's not? Do I want to go through all the hassle of dating? Get married? Have kids? Aaahhhh!

He says: We're dating

He means: We've spent at least five nights together, at least one of which has ended in sexual contact. But in no way are we exclusive

He says: We're seeing each other

He means: It's down to you and one other woman

He says: I think we should date exclusively

He means: I'm scared that if I don't make things more permanent, you'll date someone else

What He Says When He Wants Sex

He says: This is our third date, isn't it?

He says: Is it warm out or just me?

He says: What time do you go to work in the morning?

He says: You think it's true what they say about oysters?

He means: I WANT SEX

He says (in the middle of a great orgasm): I love you

He means: I love that incredible thing you are doing with your finger/tongue/body right now

He says (immediately after making love): It'll be great to show you the house I grew up in (or anything else that smacks of the future)

He means: Are you thinking about your ex and how much better he was than me?

He says: We haven't spoken for ages and I've been thinking about you

He means: I haven't gotten laid in almost three months

He says: I'm not looking to get serious

He means: I just want a little nookie

He says: How many guys have you been with?

He means: I'm the best, right?

What He Says When He's Serious

He says: I really like you

He means: I think I am falling in love but if I say that word, there is no going back

He says (in the middle of a date): It'll be great to show you the house I grew up in (or anything else that smacks of the future)

He means: See Above

He says: "Girlfriend" and he's not doing a Ru Paul imitation

He means: You've made him breakfast, he fixed your car and his buddies aren't allowed to come on to you

He says: Nothing's wrong. I'm fine

He means: God, I know you want to talk about my day and all my interrelationships with my colleagues and boss and the guy who drives my bus, but I am at home now and I just want to drink 10 beers, eat a bag of chips for dinner and zone out

He says: Maybe we need to slow down

He means: Maybe you need to slow down

He says: I don't know what I want

He means: I don't want you

He says: I need some space

He means: I'm about this close to dumping you but I haven't worked up the nerve yet

He says: You're an amazing woman

He means: You're an amazing woman

He says: I love you

He means: You make me incredibly happy whenever we are together. I think you may be The One.

What He Hears When You Speak

Men don't always hear everything you're saying, which means he's not always getting your message:

You say (after being introduced): Do you know this band?

He hears: I want you now

You say: What do you do?

He hears: Are you making enough money to make you marriage material?

You say: My ex is a crazy stalker who won't stop calling me. He scares me

He hears: I'm still in love with my ex

You say: What are we doing Saturday night?

He hears: I want all your time for the rest of your life

You say (after making love): That was really nice

He hears: That was the best sex of my life. Let's do it again!

Top Lies He'll Tell You

Be wary, if he says any of the following to you:

But I tried to call

I didn't get the message

I didn't notice what she looked like

Sex isn't the most important thing

I'll be careful

We'll talk about it later

I'm not mad

I could fall in love with you in a minute (wait a minute and ask him how he feels now)

Learning to Talk Just Like Him

How to talk to a man so he understands you:

Men can only take directions one at a time. So, if you want him to go into the kitchen and get you a cup of tea, make it a two-part request (this also applies to when you are in bed with him).

When men bother to use words, it's to inspire action (whereas women communicate to bond). So if a guy insults another guy, he automatically thinks he wants to fight. And if you say you like his shirt, he thinks, "Cool -- she wants to jump my bones!"

University of Houston psychologists investigating why men keep things bottled up found it was to maintain power in a relationship -- when they don't talk, their partner is left guessing. You do the same and he'll be putty in your hands.

Men don't want to talk about the relationship. They just want to do it (in his mind, if he didn't love you, he'd leave). Here's how he thinks: "If we need to talk about the relationship, it must be broken. If it's broken, it means it's doomed. I'm outta here."

A man will say, "I'm fine," even when being tortured by Zulu warriors. It's in his nature not to reveal weakness because that betrays vulnerability, which comes off as lack of status, according to research by evolutionary psychologist David Buss. In short, he's worried you'll think he's a weed if he can't solve his problems without his Superwoman girlfriend coming to his aid.

How to Know He Loves You

There are certain words his tongue seems to trip over -- like "girlfriend," "love" and "commitment." But since men are action-driven, it's really more important what he does than what he says.You know your man really loves you if he:

Lets you drive his car (especially his new SUV)

Assumes you're spending the weekend together

Introduces you to his friends

Stops wearing his "If you're not wasted, the day is" T-shirt, because he knows you hate it

Calls for absolutely no reason

Wants to talk after sex

Things He Never Wants to Hear

Here's what he really doesn't want to hear from you (and probably won't hear anyway):

Honey, we have to talk. No, YOU have to talk -- and talk and talk and talk

What are you thinking about?: His feelings, like his answers, will be simple. So if you are lying in postcoital comfort and he answers, "Pizza," he really means he is thinking about pizza and not that you have skin that resembles pizza or you look like you've eaten one too many pies in your life

Do you think that girl is pretty?: He thinks that if he even hesitates to say no, it will kill his chances of sex that night -- or any other night

I want to get married: He already assumes this is what you want, he just doesn't want to hear it. So you only have to notify him if this is NOT the case

How do I look -- honestly?: Honestly, you look wonderful to him. That's why he's with you

This article was written by Lisa Sussman and was taken from ivillage.com